21 DAYS TO A BETTER YOU
When you’re trying to change your life, doesn’t the first week feel spectacular? You’re motivated, ready to face the world, disciplined, and strong.
Then, maybe the weekend rolls around and instead of hitting the gym, you’re hitting the bars. Or instead of treating yourself to a hair mask and warm shower, you’re straightening your hair within an inch of its life and sleeping in dirty clothes. Then you decide that trying to change your life isn’t worth it like that and you’ll try again soon.
Hey, it happens to the best of us! But if you’re looking to make lasting, sustainable change, here’s how:
Understand the Psychology of Change
It takes about 21 days for a habit to start feeling like a part of your lifestyle. It’s only 3 weeks of time, not even a whole month. During this time, make an effort to start aligning yourself with the type of person that you want to be. For example, if you’re trying to quit cigarettes, start calling yourself a “non-smoker” after you’ve thrown away all your lighters and cigarettes. If you keep repeating that you’re “trying” to quit cigarettes, you keep your identity stuck in the “struggle to change” mindset, instead of embodying your new identity.
The future you, the person who has made all the changes to be healthier, happier, richer, or more beautiful, underneath all the change, is still you. You can’t become this other person completely; The root is still tied to you.
It may also be helpful to make your old habit completely repulsive or a tremendous pain-in-the-butt to accomplish. If you’re trying to cut down spending, forget all the passwords to store accounts, then disconnect all your credit cards from your virtual stores and throw them in a lockbox. Whenever you want to spend, you’ll have to go through the effort of waiting out the lockbox to then get your card, to then manually sign into your account, to then input all your information before you can finally make a purchase. After a while, the task kills the quick pleasure.
Remember peer pressure and your parents talking to you about negative influences? That never truly goes away. If you’re trying to leave the party scene, spend more time alone or with friends who enjoy staying home. When you’re changing habits, you can be vulnerable to feeling insecure, strange, or unlike yourself. This is natural. Having people around you who are able to support you from your future self’s perspective can be the difference between you making the change and you staying stuck.
Trackers are nice for getting a big picture look at your accountability over time and giving you the quick dopamine hit of crossing your to-dos off every day. However, trackers are limited in their ability to give you insight into why you want to change and how you developed some of your undesirable habits.
Our Manifest22 Guidebook is jam packed with writing prompts, tools and support to get you through the 21 DAY journey to implement change in your life. The day before you start is crucial to your success which is why the first part of the book is focused on making sure you’re ready to start!
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